Archive for June, 2017


Begin with YOUR end in mind

2015-12-28-1451312871-4311504-writingyourownobituary_v21600x500No one gets out of this alive:  Action Beats Inaction 

Life is short.  A cliché?  No, a fact.  We each have less than 100 years to make our lives happen, and some of us have much less than that.

In my view, growing old is truly a gift, and any day we spend not living the way we want, is simply a waste of a short time:  your life.

And yet, many of us are guilty of doing things we don’t want to do or delaying action on the very things we want to do most.

Think for a moment.

What do you really want out of life?  How can you take action toward it?

Action beats inaction.

Oh, but that sounds easier said than done and yet the doing is the most important part.

Do you want to travel more?

Write a book?

Spend more time with people you love?

Be thinner! ?  (ha ha – my all time favorite)!

I think I was born knowing that my time was limited here.  I showed up late and lost my parents when I was relatively young.  So early on, I had this built in voice in my head saying “hurry up” and DO what you want to do.  I’m impatient.  Just ask my husband.  (ha ha)

But what about YOU.  What do you want to do?

How can you take steps to DO it?

Steven Covey, author of 7 Habits of Highly Effective People tell us to “Begin with the End in Mind” – his motive is to help us have clarity when working on projects so that as workers or committee members we stay on task.  I would like to take the concept of the “The End” a bit further.

Which is why perhaps I’ve become semi-obsessed with obituaries.  Truly “THE END”  at least of this earthly life for the subject!  (ha ha)!

The obituary.  The New York Times recently published a book titled “The Book of the Dead.” I pre-ordered it.  Nothing entertains me more than a good, close read of the New York Times obituary page.  I love my local paper—The Morning Call — obits, too.  I read every one every day.
What do you want yours to say?

I’m not going to ask you to write down an action plan for your next big accomplishment.  Instead, I’m going to ask you to write your obituary.  A little morbid?  Maybe?  A practical exercise in seeing what else you want to accomplish OR how differently you may want to live?  Absolutely.

Let’s begin by taking a look at some other obits (always useful)!

Michael Redding, 74 of Macungie died on June 5, 2017 at Lehigh Valley Hospital.  He was the husband of Rita Redding and they would have been married 45 years in June.

Very nice.

Here’s another:  Clara Barton, who celebrated her 90th birthday anniversary on December 25th was president of the American Red Cross society which was established in this country, due to her efforts.


Here’s another:

Marilyn Monroe, one of the most famous stars in Hollywood’s history, was found dead early today in the bedroom of her home in the Brentwood section of LA.  She was 36 years old.

How bout THAT?

Now what will yours be?

Loving father of two who worked 40 years at a soul-sucking job to pay for a house nobody enjoyed living in?

Susie Smith, married to Dwane Smith who was not very happy….

Or will yours read….. Regina Jones made the most of her life by….

Think about it.

We don’t need to be famous to be our own bit of Obit Awesome. 

What is missing from your obit?

What are three things people WILL say about you when you are gone?

Think about it.  Do you like what people are saying?

Action Beats Inaction.

Life is Short.

Get to it.   Write Your Obit Awesome.  Action Beats Inaction and none of us are getting out of this alive.


War Paint: Making Women Visible

Well this Broadway show was everything I admire:  gritty women battling it out to the top of their fields and on the way noting the gender obstacles and opportunities.

War Paint on Broadway is a gem:  in particular, Patti Lupone killed it.  She’s my new role model.  A true artist, in my book, creates what she does not see and both Helena Rubenstein and Elizabeth Arden did just that.  I learned a lot from the play and now I will be reading and watching more about these two important women of business. I did not know that Suffragettes on the march received free Arden lipstick or that Revlon, run my a man, capitalized on the distribution of supermarket priced make up, truly hurting the sales of both Rubenstein and Arden.

There seems to be an appetite for historical biographies:  Hamilton, Beautiful, to name two.

I think we need a musical about women running for the US president…working title: Madam Potus, how about it?

That I enjoyed the show with my now fully adult, working woman daughter made it just that much sweeter.

war-paint-musical-lupone-ebersole-broadway-show-tickets-group-sales-500-1107What do you think?  Does make-up liberate us or objectify us?


OK I snapped a quick pic of the backdrop before the show started. Awesome though, no?


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